12 Ways to Liven Up Your Marriage

This weekend marks our 12th wedding anniversary. Marriage is magnificent and messy. Sometimes there is laughter and at times tears.  Joy and frustration are a part of life…a part of marriage. We still love one another. We still “date.”

Twelve ways to liven up your marriage come from my twelve years if learning and loving…

1. Date your spouse. Arrange for at least one date night a month…more if possible.
2. Take a trip away annually.  Our goal is to see the fifty states together. Sans kids…make an investment in memories.
3. Sex it up. Need I say more?  Sex is a beautiful thing, and it does get better with time.
4. Buy your spouse a present…an I love you gift can be given any time. Small or big…they all count.
5. Touch your spouse in public. Yes…pat him/her on the butt. Kiss. Hold hands. Touch his knee. Massage her shoulders. Rub his back…etc.
6. Text funny things to each other. Develop your own codes words, acronyms, and cute affirmations. Set a time for play time via text or email. Let your spouse know you are thinking of them!
7. Pray together. This is a tough one. It took years for my husband to be comfortable with it. We still need work on this one. But, it is a powerful way to breathe Life into your marriage.
8. Lay together. Slow down. Drop your phones and technology. Rest in each other.
9. Shower together. This past year my husband and I adjusted our morning routine to shower together almost every morning. It is a perfect time to talk and play.
10. Have kids. If you do not already have kids I recommend having some or adopting. A TV show once said “it was time to add bew characters to our marriage. ”  It is so thrilling and fun to have a family. If you do not want kids of your own…perhaps a cat or a dog will do.  Or, take your nieces and nephews for a bit to lighten their parents’ load and brighten your day!
11. Exercise together.  Most marriages I observe have an active person and an inactive one.  If you are inactive…try being active with your spouse…run, walk, bike, kayak, or take a yoga class together.  I am a fitness fan.  My husband not so much. He is willing to exercise with me sometimes though, and I treasure and give thanks for those times.
12. Love one another. It is the gist of marriage. It looks different for you and me. Do it your way. Do it well.

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