Finding Flexibility



A “Behind the Scenes” look at tennis camp…Day one.

I was excited for our boys to have their first day of tennis camp.  I grew up playing tennis as a child with my dad, and I started at age 4 years.  I love that my dad and I share so many wonderful memories around hours spent on the tennis court.  So, when this summer rolled around, I checked into tennis lessons for our boys.  There are wonderful tennis programs available at community centers around the United States.  The USTA (United States Tennis Association) offers child memberships and beginner lessons with special balls even geared to the age/ability of children.  Our community center offers week long tennis day camp for kids ages 4-12 years.

Perfect…our boys are 7 and 4 years…they can go together!  I registered them back in May, and July finally rolled around.  Yesterday, I packed their gear, snapped a few pictures, and went off to my morning of freedom.  Of course the youngest one was a bit camera shy, but they were both excited.  A few hours later I got a call from one of the directors at camp…

“Bryan isn’t happy.  He’s been crying, not participating, and he has been held for the last hour or so by one of our coaches.  Are you able to come get him early?”

Dressed nicely in a sundress, I had just pulled up to a local BBQ restaurant to have a lunch date with my husband.  I told the director, that “Yes, I’m close, I can be there soon.”  My husband and I got take out orders, and my husband warmly reminded me: “We decided to add that character to our family.”  This is a joke from a television sitcom. It is not joke though that indeed God creates each “character” to be unique.  Parenting our sons has taught me how to find flexibility.

Flexibility in knowing that we have one son who is an extrovert and the other an introvert.  The extrovert is eager to smile for the camera.  The introvert is hiding under his hat…head down, thumb in his mouth.  The extrovert thrives in new situations, and the introvert needs more hand holding.  Our extrovert goes with the flow in new settings, and our introvert prefers to play in the comfort of home with family not new friends.

I’m thankful that we do have a lot of time to spend in the comfort of home.  I can be flexible to the mood and energy level of the individuals (including me).  If someone is feeling a little tired we can watch a kid show.  If we have some energy to burn we can all go swimming or play outside.  Flexibility comes in creating the day around the kids sometimes.  They do dictate what we do and when we do it.  Following our child’s lead is so critical.  When we slow down and speed up to their pace we discover blessings.  Finding flexibility in the fact that our kids are still young, variable, and need grace for the journey as they figure out the world around them…one day at a time.

Dear Lord,

Thank you for each day.  Help us to greet new situations with peace knowing that you are with us.  Give us courage to face new situations and the willingness to remain flexible when things do not go according to plan.  Help us to remain flexible in our faith journey and accept that the ball does not always bounce in our favor.


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11 thoughts on “Finding Flexibility

  1. Dear Jennifer,
    Sorry you missed the sit down date with your hubby…what a gift to be able to be flexible …you’re a great mom 🙂 Our girl is an introvert so I do relate to the extra hand holding, especially when they are young 🙂


  2. This is sweet…I’ve got a very outgoing little girl who is a lot like me now but not so much like me as a little girl. It’s so fun to dance through our days together…I just love seeing her take on the world, but you’re right! There are days when flexibility is important…it’s a good thing we’re both at least somewhat that way. Fun post…happy Tuesday, friend! 🙂


  3. So sweet though! Do you ever play yourself anymore?!


    1. graceglimmers 2013-07-09 — 14:55

      Yes, Veronica…I do play a bit myself. I played last weekend in fact…my husband is sweet enough to watch our boys from time to time to allow me some exercise/grown up time! I love the sport of tennis. It is truly a life long sport. I play about once a month, and then run a couple times a week. Running is easier because it’s a shorter time commitment.


  4. Flexibility is such a necessary concept for life – closely related to coping. I am a go-with-the-flow type of person, which I think is good for my “don’t change anything ever!” child 🙂 Who ever would have imagined that I’d have to consciously teach flexibility as a skill?


    1. graceglimmers 2013-07-09 — 15:01

      Absolutely Melanie…flexibility is a life skill. So is waking up early, going to school/work, and interacting with others…we learn by doing, coaching etc. Good luck with teaching flexibility! It’s a life long lesson for us all in some regards…glad it comes easy for you. I’m learning in my adult years on this one!


  5. It’s amazing how different kids can be when they come from the same mommy and daddy. My husband and his brother are NOTHING alike, it’s almost comical. Even so, your boys looks handsome!

    Stopping by from Behind the Scenes…


    1. graceglimmers 2013-07-09 — 14:57

      Thank you Alana! I do find it funny. Today I dropped them off for day 2 of tennis and stayed for 30 min to observe. Child A was chatting it up with the coaches and other kids during the warm up…child B was quietly in the back doing his own thing silently with a slap bracelet but participating with prompts!


  6. Oh yes, Parenting does teach such a lesson in flexibility. My two much more different than just their gender.


  7. Hi. Thanks for letting me in on your day. How sweet that you have polar opposites. Never a boring day.


    1. graceglimmers 2013-07-09 — 14:59

      Thanks for stopping by Chris! Yes, my days are always interesting! I dropped them off for day 2 of tennis…I stayed for a half hour to observe. We’ll see if I get called to come pick up B early or not. I figure it is important for him to try…he is young, but he needs to learn to listen to coaches/teachers and get along with others. Plus he’s not a morning person…but hello real world…he’ll have preschool 5 days a week starting at 8:30 a.m. daily in August!


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